“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” {Psalms 147:3}
Grieving is hard. Grieving often times leaves you feeling empty, broken, alone, and even sometimes lost.
This past year I have had to deal with grieving the loss of my Nana, and woah it has not been easy. It has been incredibly emotional, and even harder to continue to trust God’s plan and purpose.
Grieving is a natural process and it takes time to heal. I feel many people think that you just heal in a number of days, but it takes time. You will not heal overnight, and that is okay. It takes time for God to work in your life. It takes time for you to realize that whatever you are going through is apart of God’s plan. It takes time, and it’s okay to not be okay all the time. It’s okay to be sad. It’s okay to be upset. It’s okay to even be angry at times. Feeling these emotions is okay, and it is part of the grieving process.
December 9, 2020 marked one year without my Nana here with us on earth, and as much as I have growth through losing her… I am still struggling and I am still going through the grieving process.
Life is unexpected, and death or sorrow can come at any time. There’s no way for us to prepare for these terrible events, but where this is loss, always remember that there is another life with God in Heaven. This is something that has been truly comforting to me throughout the journey of walking through life without my Nana. No matter what happens here on earth, God has so much more in store for us in Heaven, with no pain and sorrow. I have found so much comfort in knowing where my Nana is and how safe she is in the arms of Jesus.
“The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.” || Psalm 34:18
Even if you feel alone, God is with you always. In the moments you may not think He’s near, He’s still watching over you. The storm you may be going through will not last forever, and the pain is just temporary.
Sometimes the hardest step in grieving, is the first one – telling someone that you are struggling. I know it is hard to reach out to people in situations this hard, but the truth is that the sooner you reach out and admit that you are struggling, the sooner you will find and experience relief and healing. Reaching out to not only other people in your life, but also reaching out to God and inviting Him into the pain with you, with strengthen you through this season of grieve.
A question that I have asked/been asked on my journey of grieving is: “How long does grief take?” And the answer that I always say or tell myself, is that it will take however long it needs to take. Everyone has their own timeline and their own way of dealing and coping with situations, and it will take time. So don’t get discouraged or feel unworthy, because your healing process is taking longer than others.
As you are walking through the process of healing, remember:
- when you feel like crying, it’s okay to cry.
- if reminiscing on past memories about your grieving situation helps you heal, do it.
- it is okay to say no to things, and to take time to yourself to heal and process what you are going through.
- it is okay to have hard days, and it is okay to not be okay all the time.
- there is no need to apologize for anything, you are doing the best you can, and are on the process to healing
Whoa, this post was super hard to write and this topic really hit close to home. I am so thankful God lead me to write about grief, because I think it is something that doesn’t get talked about enough, and that so many people are struggling with.
I pray this was an encouragement to you in someway, and pray you know that even in the hardest battle, God is fighting for you and it is all apart of His perfect plan. Keep pushing on and continue on the process of healing. Don’t give up, you can get through this.
I love you so much and I am always here for you!
Much love,
Carsyn Claire!
Saved by Grace 